Porn gets a lot of negative press, and rightly so. I have certainly spoken out about the negative impact that unconscious porn use can have on men, women, and relationships.

But notice I said “unconscious porn use”.

Porn is not inherently evil, in and of itself. In fact- the use of pornography to stimulate sexual arousal is in fact an ancient, and potentially beautiful practice.

In ancient China couples would begin their ‘date nights’ by flipping through something called “a pillow book”- which was a book of erotic images depicting various sexual acts.

Couples used this book to become mutually aroused, and then had hot Tantric sex for hours….or so they say.

In my opinion, the biggest problem with modern porn is not the porn itself. It is the way in which it is created and used- unconsciously, and with very little- to- no mindfulness or self awareness.

That being said, all it takes to turn the poison of unconscious porn use, into medicine healing elixir is…your mindful attention and conscious awareness.

Here are 3 ways you can start using porn as medicine:

#1- Exposure to other types of sex and exploration. Porn is a fabulous and very healthy way to explore fantasies and so called ‘shameful’ desires. You know those deep dark desires that you think no one else will understand? Well chances are if you can think of it, there is porn for it.

Most human desires are natural, healthy and normal. And given the fact that we live in a very sex negative culture, it’s important to have a safe venue in which to explore some of these fantasies harmlessly. That is the beauty of porn. Other people get paid to act out your deepest, darkest desires- and you get to live them out vicariously, causing no harm to self or others.

#2- Explore energy connection. We are more than just meat bodies walking around. We are the embodiment of consciousness itself, which is essentially energy. 

The ability to feel/sense ‘energy’  is built in to the human design, and  mindfully watching porn can be an excellent way to study the exchange that happens between people who are really connected, and people who are not.

# 3- Healing sexual shame. Using porn to explore ‘shameful’ fantasies can be tremendously healing and cathartic. I share my personal experience of using porn as medicine to heal sexual shame in a recent radio show with my wonderful co host, Ms. Jennifer Elizabeth Masters. You can listen below!

Porn is here to stay folks. It’s up to us as individuals to decide if and how to use it wisely.